Fed Up on Facebook

The other day, after my last blog post, I went on to read some articles that I thought were honestly pretty good.  The thing that really worked me up though was the comments section. I decided I couldn't continue without saying something. I took to facebook and it sort of turned into a rant, but I found that I had many people who were feeling the same way. I doubt I have any readers here that aren't on my facebook, but I will repost it here.

*takes deep breath*

Ok, here goes.

The world is getting more divided every day. People are becoming more passionate about things and through mediums such as social media being so readily accessible in society, they're being more vocal about their opinions. I've got one certain thing on my mind and it's becoming more of an issue than ever before. I'm just going to be blunt.

Fat chicks in the media.

I swear, every day, there is the same issue about Melissa McCarthy or Rebel Wilson being "fat chicks for comic relief...that aren't even that funny." Or "my gosh, Kelly Clarkson is so fat now, it's disgusting." Or even Tess (Munster) Holliday is just horrible and doesn't deserve to be a model.

That's just the tip of it. If you read the comments of any facebook post, or the comments section to the article I have posted here, you'll see something that is really really wrong.

I'm here to break the news to some of you.

FAT PEOPLE EXIST! FAT PEOPLE ARE NOT HERE TO BE YOUR HEALTH ROLE MODELS. FAT PEOPLE DESERVE RESPECT JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER PERSON ON THIS *@$% PLANET!

I read these comments and for the most part I can just scroll by the ignorance, roll my eyes at the truly distasteful, but some just baffle me with the pure contempt that anyone who isn't THEIR IDEA of the perfect body should choose to have a career in the limelight or, heaven forbid, wear clothing. Seriously. Do we not get to wear clothes? If there weren't plus-sized models showing plus-sized clothing, then guess what? All us plus-sized people would be walking around naked, which clearly is the exact opposite of what most these blowhards actually want. 

Yes, I'm a bit upset but that's because I'm sick and freaking tired of it. Don't you ever dare to judge just by LOOKING at me (or anyone else!) that you know my current health, my health history, my eating habits, or my exercise habits. You have no idea why I look the way I do and frankly, it should be of NO CONCERN of yours. None! Seriously, it does not. 

By existing and being happy with who I am DOES NOT mean I am "promoting an unhealthy lifestyle" or encouraging people to gain weight to look like me. Hell no! I want everyone to be the healthiest and strongest they can be. I don't judge anyone by their size or looks, just as I don't judge them by their race, color, religion, sexual identity, socioeconomic status or anything else! Take one look at my friends list on facebook (which is my in-real-life friends list, too) and you will see that I am all accepting. I really don't care! As long as you're a kind, honest and non-judgmental person, we get along.

I shudder to think that anyone in my list of friends or family would ever make such comments about anyone who is overweight or obese KNOWING that I am in their life. Do these people commenting on all these articles or pictures not have ONE FRIEND ONE FAMILY MEMBER who is bigger than society's standards allow? I highly highly doubt that. How disrespectful and woefully ignorant they must be to their loved ones. 

I have issues. Most definitely. Am I in top physical health? No! Does this mean that I should hide away, apparently naked, not letting "impressionable youth" get swept up in "fat flaunting", until I'm in pristine health and the "optimum size"? Child, please. Of course not. 

I have been doing my dammedest for at least 12 years to eat right, exercise and live up to what everyone else says I should be. Guess what? All that shaming HASN'T BEEN WORKING! I find myself to be one of the fortunate ones that didn't commit suicide from having been bullied her whole life. I find myself fortunate because I was in perfect health until I got cancer. I feel fortunate because I survived that and can make changes, to the best of my knowledge, to get as healthy as I can.

After having gone to multiple doctors over the course of the last 9 or so months with this blasted gallbladder issue, I know exactly where my health is. Do you know how healthy YOU are?

Hey "not visually obviously overweight person hiding behind a keyboard", When was the last time you got a complete checkup at the doctor? Hmmm? Quit being a keyboard warrior and do yourself a breast or ball check, just to make sure.

Fat people exist, ok? Quit looking at someone elses mote while you've got a whole beam.

I don't care about your looks, but I do have one thing to say about them....That Judgmental Attitude doesn't look good on you.

#BodyPositivity #EffYourBeautyStandards #PositivelyPlusSize

http://www.businessinsider.com/tess-holliday-people-cover-plus-size-model-with-tattoos-2015-5

I found and do find it to be quite interesting that even though I have so many distorted views about my own body and that I'm still trying to figure out how to love myself (a la my last post), I can be so bold and outspoken about important matters like this. I do have a strong position on body positivity and will defend the right to be happy even though I'm obese. I don't want to call it a "fake it til you make it" because that's not what's going on. I just have part of the puzzle down and am working on the rest of it.

I plan to continue this outspoken nature and doing research as well.  It may be the very thing that gives me the directions to my missing puzzle pieces.